I saved this to my drafts a day or two ago when I first saw it, because it struck me that I have never felt there was a stigma in doing things alone. I am single, I have been in a number of long term relationships and a number of lighthearted affairs, but I have never relied upon having another person in my life to do the things I enjoy.
Is it true that going to dinner with someone else, or the movies, or any number of other things can be more fun when you are with someone? Well yes, sometimes this is true, but not always. I have traveled alone on more than one occasion, and because I have been alone, I have gone into restaurants alone.
Whenever I have gone to dinner alone, I have always made sure that it has been for a meal that I will enjoy. A meal which I am not likely to make for myself. I have also brought with me a good book - which I might add, I have often found myself not reading in the end.
Perhaps it is something about my face, my body language, my demeanor, or just my normal level of friendliness, but I have wound up on more than one occasion, starting off eating alone but finishing with company. Doing this, I have met people who were simply entertaining dinner companions, I have met people with whom I truly had nothing in common except being foreigners in the land we were visiting, I have met people who became lasting friends.
I think that people have been comfortable speaking with me when I have been on my own, because it is clear that I am comfortable being on my own. There is no sense of pity, no sense of shame, because there is nothing to pity and no reason for shame. Truly, there is only a stigma about doing things alone if you decide there is one.